Shrinking so that other people don’t feel others don’t feel insecure around us. Sometimes we hold onto low self worth because it keeps us to able to maintain certain roles in relationships. Not consciously, but as a quiet, ongoing deal. I’ll stay small so you won’t feel uncomfortable. Not that anyone is forcing us to be this way, it’s almost a society wide deal - let’s not make others feel insecure or jealous or threatened by shining too brightly.

We’ve all experienced it: you sit down to tackle a task, and a wave of restlessness sets in. You might feel scattered or overwhelmed, as though you can’t quite settle. According to the Stanford neuroscientist Dr. Andrew Huberman, this early sense of agitation isn’t a sign that you’re “doing it wrong.” It’s simply your stress circuits activating before your brain eases into concentration.

I work with people who are drawn to a deeper process, whether they come to it through a need for healing, a life transition, or a sense that something within them is waking up. Spiritual therapy, transpersonal counseling, and holistic psychotherapy all offer a way of working that acknowledges the full depth of what it means to be human—the mind, the body, the emotions, and something beyond all of these.

“Can I Allow this Feeling?”

The disturbed emotions are present after a dream, I linger in those for a while.

Then I remember there’s another option to resistance to what I’m feeling.

“Can I just allow this feeling?”

“Yes”

“Am I willing to allow this?”

“Yes”

Without judging it in any way…..

“Can I welcome it? Can I WELCOME it?”

Self-actualisation refers to the realisation or fulfilment of one's talents, potential, and capabilities, and the realization of their full potential.

The pursuit of self-actualization can be influenced by various factors, including one's financial situation. Here are a few considerations:

Access to Resources:

We may have more resources at their disposal, such as time, education, and opportunities, which can facilitate their journey toward self-actualization.

They may have the means to engage in activities, hobbies, or educational pursuits that contribute to personal growth.

We don’t have to learn how to love ourselves. We already love ourselves. All we have to do is to stop withholding it. It’s not some new skill we need to learn – it is the innate condition we arrived with, lovable and loving.

To recognise this involves identifying the conditioning that led us to believe we are not worthy of our own love and then to drop those filters of conditioning and beliefs that obscure our natural authentic state.

There is often a lot of emphasis on what is wrong with and little focus on the active nourishment of the strengths and resources that we can use to sustain our wellbeing.

An awareness of our strengths, qualities and inner resources can loosen the grip of negative emotions such as anxiety and depression and can help us to build resilience for the future and to make more space for gradually increasing our happiness level

Mindfulness works particularly well in the shower as it is such a visceral experience, rich in sensory input which we can use to move ourselves out of our thoughts and into the peace of the present moment.

In the shower we are alone, we are safe and there is nowhere else to go. We are in there for the duration and it is a perfect time to be fully grounded in our bodies.

Uneasy Affluence - As societal inequalities continue to grow, those who find themselves with significant financial resources may experience a complex interplay of emotions and moral dilemmas. Here we explore briefly the psychological strategies that you can employ to navigate the uneasy waters of affluence in an era of rising inequality.

….Only in this way can wealth, the wealth that we receive as a gift from Creation without harming it or anyone else, be shared by all. This is the voice I would like to reach those who currently rule Creation, so that they may look to the future without ever forgetting the eternity of human values, namely work, the family, the spirituality of any religion, even that of those who do not believe….

Sudden Wealth and its Impact

Whether through winning the lottery, receiving a large inheritance, or striking it big in the world of business or entertainment, has a profound impact on the psychology of individuals. Here we explore the complex psychological aspects associated with sudden wealth, shedding light on how it can affect individuals' emotions, behaviour, and overall well-being.

Learning to love ourselves can bring a lot of benefits to our lives socially, emotionally, spiritually and materially. In this post, we'll explore some of the advantages of self-love, and how it can help us to live a happier and more fulfilling life.

One of the main benefits of self-love is that it can help us to feel more confident and secure in ourselves. When we are able to accept and appreciate ourselves as we are, we are less likely to feel insecure or unsure of ourselves. We are more likely to feel comfortable in our own skin, and to have the confidence to pursue our goals and dreams.

Boarding schools have long been known for their rigorous academics and structured environments. While they promise to instill discipline and provide a top-notch education, the experiences of adults who attended boarding schools can come with a unique set of challenges and even trauma in later life. In this blog post, we'll explore some common issues faced by these individuals as they transition into adulthood.

Becoming more anti-fragile involves developing resilience and adaptability in the face of adversity or stressors.

Nassim Nicholas Taleb coined the term "anti-fragile" to describe systems or individuals that not only withstand shocks but actually thrive and improve in response to them. Here are actions you can take to become more anti-fragile:

The vagus nerve assumes a pivotal role in governing the operations of our body, contributing significantly to the regulation of the autonomic nervous system (ANS). This intricate network of nerves reaches out to vital organs that operate primarily beyond our conscious influence, including respiration, digestion, heart rate, emotional states, and immune responses.

The accumulation of wealth and success is both a relentless and rewarding journey, but it can sometimes leave some, particularly high-net-worth individuals (HNWIs), feeling like something crucial is missing—meaning and purpose.

As a therapist who specializes in working with affluent clients, I understand the unique challenges you face. In this post, we'll explore the longing for deeper meaning and purpose in your life and offer suggestions for the embarking on journey to fulfilling your full potential.

Identifying your values is a crucial step towards finding greater meaning and purpose in your life as a high-net-worth individual (HNWI). Here's a list of steps and questions to help you identify your values:

Raising children in a financially privileged environment brings distinct challenges and concerns. High-net-worth individuals (HNWIs) often grapple with the desire to provide the best for their children while ensuring that wealth doesn't negatively impact their upbringing.